Plan

Listening to the song – already gone – makes me realize that not all plans turn out to be as what being planned. There are ups and downs while we cruise our journey of life – and plans are what we have to face and overcome all the situations we are and will be facing.

Always have a backup plan to cover those that do not turn out as planned. If the back up also turn out to be sour.. then you just have to accept it - as that is meant to be your fate. After all, we, human can only plan.. the Man up there is the one who has all the right whether to consent or otherwise..

Someone told me before: live for today and don’t think or make plan for tomorrow as you wouldn’t know if you still can see tomorrow. I totally disagree with this saying - as if you do not have an ambition, but looking back and analyze it.. there is a logic in ‘we wouldn’t know if we still can see tomorrow’. But again.. to me, we must have plan… plan for our life, our future… doesn’t that suppose to be?? Even a company has its plan – short term, long term… interesting huh??

Lets think about it..

Here is what the 'already gone' all about..

Remember all the things we wanted
Now all our memories, they're haunted
We were always meant to say goodbye
Even with our fists held high
It never would have work out right, yeah
We were never meant for do or die
I didn't want us to burn out
I didn't come here to hurt you now I can't stop

I want you to know
That it doesn't matter
Where we take this road
But someone's gotta go
And I want you to know
You could not loved me better
But I want you to move on
So I'm already gone

Looking at you makes it harder
But I know that you'll find another
That doesn't always make you wanna cry
It started with the perfect kiss then
We could feel the poison set in
"Perfect" couldn't keep this love alive
You know that I love you so
I love you enough to let you go

You can't make it feel right
When you know that it's wrong
I'm already gone, already gone
There's no moving on
So I'm already gone
Ahhh already gone, already gone, already gone
Ahhh already gone, already gone, already gone

Remember all the tings we wanted
Now all our memories, they're haunted
We were always meant to say goodbye

You can't make it feel right
When you know that it's wrong
I'm already gone, already gone
There's no moving on
So I'm already gone

S T R E S S

Lately, I have been receiving so many unnecessary and unwanted news. Though I try to ignore but it keep bothering me. Am fed up of these nonsence but as a human, I can't run away. Somehow, I have to face it and end up, I am stressed.
What would you do when you feel stress? Here, some tips I've got from the internet (by Alison B Dunham), should try this....

1. Talk: Don't hold all your feelings within! Discuss your stressful feelings with someone you trust who will listen without being judgmental or pressuring you to their own point of view.
Me: what if I don't have someone that I trust? Have no choice but to swallow it.

2. Be in Charge: Another way to reduce your stress is to find an interest, hobby or activity where you feel in charge and call the shots.
Me: hobby, interest???? impossible to me... as it is, to find time for myself also is very difficult....

3. Get Away: Sometimes a change, however small, can do wonders for your spirit. Forget it all for a while - escape! Go somewhere new for a few hours, or a few days if you can afford to.
Me: this sounds good to me... but still... time always a hurdle for me

4. Socialise: Spend time with family and friends for love and support. Don't be afraid to enjoy yourself! Appreciate friendship and let others know you care about them, too. Love may not conquer all, but it's a great start.
Me: have no comment on this....

5. Learn How to be Happy: One thing all of life's winners have in common is a sense of well-being, a positive attitude and realistic goals. Focus on the good things about yourself, and in your life. Nobody's perfect. Learn to enjoy the "little things" that make you happy.
Me: this is fantastic but when you focus on the good things about yourself, don't overdo, as you'll become ego.

Picture: courtesy of Kontansplace.com

B I R T H D A Y

What does this word means to you… or affect you? beside it makes you wiser than yesterday.

Birthday can mean everything and may not to some people, but one thing for sure… it is a very special day to me.

Spend an hour or two to be with yourself and think what have you done or given yourself the last one year… did you treat yourself good? did you appreciate yourself?

Talking about celebration….what do you normally do during this special day. Whether you are alone or with someone special, you should celebrate this day. Celebrate doesn’t mean it should be a big one… depends on what makes you happy. It can be as simple as go for a movie or go for a vacation.
When you are busy celebrating your bid day, just remember to… perhaps…thanks to someone up there who give you another day to live.

What to Give in Return

What would you do when your friends, colleagues or anybody have given something (in a form of gift, cash or anything) during an occasion you are celebrating?

When come to think about this, I realize that some people seem not to take this matter seriously. From my experience, they (the receiver) just receive with wide-open hand without having to crack their head what to give in return.

We (the giver), actually do not ask for anything in return, but for a courtesy sake, can't the receiver just acknowledge it by giving back something practical that makes everybody happy - rather than giving a thing (you should know well) that some people will not appreciate. I'm surprised that some people out there, after having mixed around with so many people from different background (you readers should know who I mean) still couldn't think of what practical and what not to give in return.

In my opinion, the simplest thing to give in return is food - but remember, not anykind of food. The best would be either cake or chocolate. Open your mind and think, do these cake and chocholate really cost you a fortune (unless you are buying it from the Loaf?? MO?? or Shang?? - I don't think these places (MO/Shang) will hole your pocket for a whole cake). Try to put yourself in the giver's shoe. Don't you want to have something good?

Well, different people have different piece of mind. To me "try to be as far more practical as possible" because it is not that the giver is asking something in return but we as a receiver want to feel good and happy when we know that the giver feels good and happy to receive our returns - aka "win-win situation".

Just take a minute or two of your precious time to give this matter a thought.

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Lonely & Someone to Turn To

Lonely.... this feeling sometimes "knock" our door. Why do people feel lonely? - simply because you are alone - you don't have anyone to turn to or anyone you can call your "friend", "family" or "loved ones".

One can fill their life with lots of activities to avoid being lonely but there is time when one really needs someone in their life. Needed someone in your life doesn't mean that it must be a "boyfriend" or "girlfriend" - it can be anything e.g. friends, family, etc.

Different people have different ways to overcome "LONELY". Some people will simply make themselves busy, some people will get theirselves close to someone, finding more friends, so on and so forth but remember this..... getting close to someone might inturn hurt you when they walk out of your life.

It is good to have at least 1 friend apart from your family to share your ups and downs as you can't share everything with your family - but there is some people out there who can do this.... (definitely not me).

It really hurts and put you into frustration when the time you need somebody, but no one there for you. Have you ever trap in this situation???? - it really hurts. What do you do if you are in this situation?

"The only way to have a friend is to be on" ... by Waldo Emerson ...

"If you want your life to be a magnificent story, then begin by realizing that you are the author and everyday you have the opportunity to write a new page" ...by Mark Houlahan...

"Don't ask for an easier life; ask to be a stronger person" ... by Kristen Goeser...

Cherish While It Entertains You

Was reading my friend's blog over the weekend and found the full lyrics of my favourite song - My Wish - by Rascal Flatts.

A lovely song full of positive message - if you look at it from a different angle, but this song suppose a wish & motivation from someone to another with a hope that that person realise someone loves him/her and wish him/her feels the same way.

Among the paragraphs that had touched me deeply:

... if you're faced with a choice and you have to choose, choose the one that means the most to you... if one door opens to another door closed, keep on walking till you find the window...

... if it's cold outside, show the world the warmth of your smile...

... never look back but never forget, all the ones who love you in the place you left... always forgive and never regret.... help somebody every chance you get and always give more than you take...

I start to think, if I am in all these situations, will I do so? My answer to it: yes and no - guess my friends who know me will know which one is yes and which is no.....

Well, sometimes (girl, are you sure it sometimes?... not always???) it is easy to say than to practise. So to make it a practise, we should first... free ourself from being selfish, think of other people around us.

I once heard a motivator said "First, love yourself, followed by so many then". Doesn't this sounds contradicting from "free from being selfish". We always forget that this so called 'love' need to be shared among ourself and the 'then'. If we manage to share this 'love', we'll definitely being far far from 'selfish'.

Don't you agree with me?

Here some quotes I find interesting and should share this with you:

I - Avoid it

We - Use it

Ego - Kill it

Love - Value it

Smile - Keep it

Rumor - Ignore it

Success - Achieve it

Knowledge - Acquire it

"Destiny is not a matter of chance, it is a matter of choice. It is not a thing to be waited for, it is a thing to be achieved."